Comments on: Abstinence and Sex Education http://thebluejacketsociety.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/abstinence-and-sex-education/ promoting participation through discussion Mon, 21 Apr 2008 22:15:15 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Steve http://thebluejacketsociety.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/abstinence-and-sex-education/#comment-108 Steve Tue, 25 Mar 2008 22:26:05 +0000 http://thebluejacketsociety.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/abstinence-and-sex-education/#comment-108 Hannah's got it perfectly here. I really couldn't add much more... but I will because I have a big mouth and I can type fast! This goes for so many other things the public school system is now responsible for, some even legally mandated: teaching morals and self esteem, feeding breakfast and lunches, after school programs, multicultural education, etc... etc... Do you see a pattern here? Parents, for various reasons, have abdicated their own powers and responsibilities to the government. There's no law that says parents have to provide any of those things I mentioned above. The Sexual Revolution of the Sixties was basically a failure, intent on freeing people to make their own decisions rather than learning from institutions that really worked. What did we get from this "revolution"? Mistrust, rebellious and broken children, rampant STD's, impoverished, under-aged single mothers and the creation of a whole new cycle of destruction. Schools teaching sexual education is only a Band-Aid on this type of cancer. Hannah’s got it perfectly here. I really couldn’t add much more… but I will because I have a big mouth and I can type fast!

This goes for so many other things the public school system is now responsible for, some even legally mandated: teaching morals and self esteem, feeding breakfast and lunches, after school programs, multicultural education, etc… etc… Do you see a pattern here?

Parents, for various reasons, have abdicated their own powers and responsibilities to the government. There’s no law that says parents have to provide any of those things I mentioned above.

The Sexual Revolution of the Sixties was basically a failure, intent on freeing people to make their own decisions rather than learning from institutions that really worked.

What did we get from this “revolution”? Mistrust, rebellious and broken children, rampant STD’s, impoverished, under-aged single mothers and the creation of a whole new cycle of destruction.

Schools teaching sexual education is only a Band-Aid on this type of cancer.

]]> By: Hannah http://thebluejacketsociety.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/abstinence-and-sex-education/#comment-63 Hannah Mon, 03 Mar 2008 02:37:02 +0000 http://thebluejacketsociety.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/abstinence-and-sex-education/#comment-63 Ultimately, I believe it is the responsibility of parents to teach their children about sex and the issues surrounding it. However, parents have failed to do this in an adequate manner, so that teens are left to peers and school to figure out this information. And ultimately, though schools can provide information, children have already begun to deeply develop how they see and value themselves as sexual beings. Sexuality is essential to who we are, and parents do a disservice to their children at the very beginning by not giving their children specific and accurate terminology related to their sexuality. By incorporating slang terms into their sexual anatomy vocabulary, sexuality becomes something "secret" (with a sense of shame), not necessarily something "private" (meaning limited access, not with a sense of shame). Children need to be reinforced at an early age that their sexuality is not bad, it is private and they ultimately have control over their bodies. Part of this sense of ownership over your own body comes from using accurate terminology. If children and later teens understand that they ultimately have control over their body, they will be better able to make a conscious decision about sex. With that foundation of confidence in who you are as a sexual being, you are better able to receive messages about abstinence, which I believe are essential to an educational curriculum. Point being, it has to start with the parents, and if that step has been missed, I believe it is hard to say that any type of school curriculum will change a child's core ideas about sexuality. Ultimately, I believe it is the responsibility of parents to teach their children about sex and the issues surrounding it. However, parents have failed to do this in an adequate manner, so that teens are left to peers and school to figure out this information. And ultimately, though schools can provide information, children have already begun to deeply develop how they see and value themselves as sexual beings. Sexuality is essential to who we are, and parents do a disservice to their children at the very beginning by not giving their children specific and accurate terminology related to their sexuality. By incorporating slang terms into their sexual anatomy vocabulary, sexuality becomes something “secret” (with a sense of shame), not necessarily something “private” (meaning limited access, not with a sense of shame). Children need to be reinforced at an early age that their sexuality is not bad, it is private and they ultimately have control over their bodies. Part of this sense of ownership over your own body comes from using accurate terminology. If children and later teens understand that they ultimately have control over their body, they will be better able to make a conscious decision about sex.
With that foundation of confidence in who you are as a sexual being, you are better able to receive messages about abstinence, which I believe are essential to an educational curriculum. Point being, it has to start with the parents, and if that step has been missed, I believe it is hard to say that any type of school curriculum will change a child’s core ideas about sexuality.

]]> By: William A. Cummins, Author http://thebluejacketsociety.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/abstinence-and-sex-education/#comment-61 William A. Cummins, Author Sat, 01 Mar 2008 04:25:23 +0000 http://thebluejacketsociety.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/abstinence-and-sex-education/#comment-61 I agree totally with what you are saying about abstinence only, but you and the rest of society are missing the mark about how to correct the problem of sex-ed. Based upon the rave reviews my book, "Life Is Sexually Transmitted" has received you would do well to incorporate its 'hidden secrets' into the sex-ed curriculum. You can review and order the book on its website: www.cleave2.com or contact me at: 386-761-5675 or: newbook@cleave2.com William A. Cummins, Author, Speaker I agree totally with what you are saying about abstinence only, but you and the rest of society are missing the mark about how to correct the problem of sex-ed. Based upon the rave reviews my book, “Life Is Sexually Transmitted” has received you would do well to incorporate its ‘hidden secrets’ into the sex-ed curriculum. You can review and order the book on its website: http://www.cleave2.com or contact me at: 386-761-5675 or: newbook@cleave2.com
William A. Cummins, Author, Speaker

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